Friday, November 14, 2008

5 Simple Dating Tips For Men

Today it's more difficult to date as a single man. With the trends of dating moving more and more toward the Internet women are able to be more selective when searching for a man. The dating world is a jungle and men who don't know what they're doing keep making the same mistakes over and over... finding it harder to stand out and shine. Here are 5 simple dating tips for men to help smooth out the frustrations of dating.

Learn to Qualify Women
Women have become preconditioned to scoff a man who shows too much interest in her looks above anything else. Men will rely upon lame pick-up lines and over-used routines that she has undoubtedly heard before. Rather than fitting in with the rest of the unsuccessful men, communicate to her that it is you who is picking her and not the other way around. Qualifying women in this sense shows you have criteria for your ideal women and will actually make you appear more attractive in her eyes. It's important to remember that you have to stay true to that criteria regardless of how good she looks.

One-Sided Conversations Are Bad
You're going to want to stay away from one-sided conversations with a woman. If you're having a conversation and it seems like you're taking on most of the dialogue between you to either move along or get her to chime in. That means create a balanced conversation where the woman is engaging and does her part to contribute to the conversation. There are easy questions like "Where are you from", or "How do you know _____ " that can start a simple mingle session. It's important to remember that if she's not investing in the conversation and only answering with short replies - you should not invest too much of yourself either.

Confidence And Your Approach
A lot of guys see a woman's phone number as the goal. It's true that the phone number should be a priority but it's only part of the overall picture. When asking for a woman's phone number you should be confident and to the point. Don't be afraid or dance around the question. Don't hint at exchanging numbers either - be strong and confident with your approach. By remembering that the number isn't the goal it take some of the pressure off and by working the exchange into conversation there will be little or no stress when thinking how to ask a girl her number. When talking about a topic that you BOTH enjoy casually mention she should take out her phone. Have her dial your number and call it. No pickup lines no funny jokes.

"Hey do you have your phone on you? Take it out."

"Cool, dial my number we should definitely talk more about going ______ next time we're both free"

Leading Women In A Relationship
From dancing to adventure, women expect men to lead. One of the biggest mistakes men make is constantly asking the woman what she wants to do. If this is you - STOP. You will likely find yourself single again very soon. Make the decisions for the two of you and stick with it. Be decisive, don't hesitate, and enjoy yourself. This is true both in normal courting as well as the bedroom.

Approval Seeking Men Are Lame
Attractive men are secure in themselves and have no reason to seek approval from women. Trying to impress a women with bling bling or expensive luxuries are all forms of approval seeking. Don't do these things as they shine you in a negative and insecure light. Both qualities are fundamentally unattractive.

No comments: