Your mother should be credited for drilling into your head some of the very important dating rules for men. She ensured that you brushed your teeth, had your hair shaved or combed, taught you to clean your clothes and even went further to put some sense of humor in your conversations. Mum might not have told you this so please pay attention. The first rule is that read the signs and move on. Do not keep on asking a girl out if she continues saying no after the few first dates. Pursuing a woman who is not interested in you might be very disappointing. Women are better at the dating game and will use their sexual power to test guys and if she does not like you. You can do little to change that.
Men have been accused of being less romantic. Women are great lovers and do not like it when their efforts are not reciprocated. Ten women will pursue a romantic guy while you cannot get even a single girl to hold your shoulder while you cry. Among the dating rules for men is that you should learn the female anatomy and please her a lot when it comes to making love. If you make a woman climax she will fall in love with you. There are so many resources where you can get information about love making techniques. Go to the Internet, read books and listen to the radio and make your woman happy. Women take long to get aroused so do not concentrate on your pleasure. That will be so mean of you.
Men love to see and it is hard to help this. Among the dating rules for men is that do not apologize for being a man. You should be proud of who you are at all times. If you innocently look at another woman you are called all sorts of names including, a pig, rapist, and jerk. Do not allow this. A flirtatious look is so natural a drive to a man. It is natural for a man to want to have sex. Let your woman understand this at all times. Scarcity translates into high value. Do not be too available all the time. Say you are busy at times just to keep her guessing.
It feels good to be responsible. Do you pay for all the bills on your dates? That has to change. Do not be quick to clear all her bills from food and drinks to her cab home. It is unacceptable. Dating rules for men are against that because it might change her perception about you. Unless she does not have money, let her pay some of the cheap bills. The dating rules associated with this is do not trade money for sex. Have fun in all your dates and always focus on a challenging course. Pursue a girl who is above your head. She might seem too good for you but give it a try. You might just be lucky enough to date a very pretty girl. Lowering your standards means that you will tolerate intolerable behavior. Be yourself at all times.
Friday, November 14, 2008
Leverage The Luck Of The Irish To Become Lucky In Love!
When you speak of the Irish, talk often turns to luck. According to Wikipedia, this can be a tongue and cheek discussion of luck, since the Irish have fallen victim to many woes over the centuries. Another entry cited that when you catch a Leprechaun, you'll get a piece of gold - which certainly would be lucky!
So how can you leverage the good luck of the Irish to turn your dating luck around? Let's base the love-life shift on the shamrock's three heart-shaped leaves:
1) Begin thinking of yourself as lucky in love
Lucky people usually think of themselves as lucky which further promotes more good luck. They expect to be lucky. So how would your love-life change if you felt lucky in love? You might feel more attractive to the opposite s*e*x. You might not fear rejection as much. You might imagine suddenly finding the love of your life. Not such a bad idea huh?
This concept mirrors "The Secret" and the Universal Law of Attraction which states "Like attracts like." What that really means is that positive thinking attracts more positive thinking. And believing you are lucky in love will attract energy that makes you - you've got it - lucky in love. What have you got to lose?
2) Follow the rainbow to find the Leprechaun's pot of gold
Or the romantic partner you've been seeking. Hmmm. How does that apply? Well, rainbows seem like a bit of magic from the Universe and Leprechauns certainly have a magical quality. So can you stretch to believe that meeting the right person for you is part of the magic of the Universe and bound to happen? People find love every day. Why not you?
Personally, on my dating journey, sometimes what pulled me through the rougher times was reminding myself that everything has a purpose (even if we don't know it.) So there must be a reason I'm doing all this to find a partner. And I chose to believe that the reasons behind it all , the good and the bad, were the lessons I needed to learn to FIND HIM. Holding onto that faith tightly, kept me going when I felt down. I got to the point where I knew undeniably that I was going to find the right partner for me. And I did. If I can do it, I know you can too.
3) Get your own piece of gold to remind yourself that you are lucky
If you did meet a Leprechaun who rewarded you with a piece of gold, you'd probably never let go of it right? Well, what if you found your own talisman to remind you of your good fortune? You could get something like :
One of those popular necklaces with a horseshoe (for more good luck of course)
A small coin stamped with lucky symbols to carry with you (Celtic stores carry them)
Or find a lucky pebble and maybe even paint it gold
The actual item doesn't matter. What does matter is that you find something that speaks to you about your lot in life and turning it around to the lucky soul you deserve to be - and truly are.
Take your luck into your own hands! Allow yourself this new belief of being lucky in love. Who knows where it will take you but expecting to be lucky in love, will definitely attract more luck to you. Here's to getting lucky - in love and life!
So how can you leverage the good luck of the Irish to turn your dating luck around? Let's base the love-life shift on the shamrock's three heart-shaped leaves:
1) Begin thinking of yourself as lucky in love
Lucky people usually think of themselves as lucky which further promotes more good luck. They expect to be lucky. So how would your love-life change if you felt lucky in love? You might feel more attractive to the opposite s*e*x. You might not fear rejection as much. You might imagine suddenly finding the love of your life. Not such a bad idea huh?
This concept mirrors "The Secret" and the Universal Law of Attraction which states "Like attracts like." What that really means is that positive thinking attracts more positive thinking. And believing you are lucky in love will attract energy that makes you - you've got it - lucky in love. What have you got to lose?
2) Follow the rainbow to find the Leprechaun's pot of gold
Or the romantic partner you've been seeking. Hmmm. How does that apply? Well, rainbows seem like a bit of magic from the Universe and Leprechauns certainly have a magical quality. So can you stretch to believe that meeting the right person for you is part of the magic of the Universe and bound to happen? People find love every day. Why not you?
Personally, on my dating journey, sometimes what pulled me through the rougher times was reminding myself that everything has a purpose (even if we don't know it.) So there must be a reason I'm doing all this to find a partner. And I chose to believe that the reasons behind it all , the good and the bad, were the lessons I needed to learn to FIND HIM. Holding onto that faith tightly, kept me going when I felt down. I got to the point where I knew undeniably that I was going to find the right partner for me. And I did. If I can do it, I know you can too.
3) Get your own piece of gold to remind yourself that you are lucky
If you did meet a Leprechaun who rewarded you with a piece of gold, you'd probably never let go of it right? Well, what if you found your own talisman to remind you of your good fortune? You could get something like :
One of those popular necklaces with a horseshoe (for more good luck of course)
A small coin stamped with lucky symbols to carry with you (Celtic stores carry them)
Or find a lucky pebble and maybe even paint it gold
The actual item doesn't matter. What does matter is that you find something that speaks to you about your lot in life and turning it around to the lucky soul you deserve to be - and truly are.
Take your luck into your own hands! Allow yourself this new belief of being lucky in love. Who knows where it will take you but expecting to be lucky in love, will definitely attract more luck to you. Here's to getting lucky - in love and life!
5 Simple Dating Tips For Men
Today it's more difficult to date as a single man. With the trends of dating moving more and more toward the Internet women are able to be more selective when searching for a man. The dating world is a jungle and men who don't know what they're doing keep making the same mistakes over and over... finding it harder to stand out and shine. Here are 5 simple dating tips for men to help smooth out the frustrations of dating.
Learn to Qualify Women
Women have become preconditioned to scoff a man who shows too much interest in her looks above anything else. Men will rely upon lame pick-up lines and over-used routines that she has undoubtedly heard before. Rather than fitting in with the rest of the unsuccessful men, communicate to her that it is you who is picking her and not the other way around. Qualifying women in this sense shows you have criteria for your ideal women and will actually make you appear more attractive in her eyes. It's important to remember that you have to stay true to that criteria regardless of how good she looks.
One-Sided Conversations Are Bad
You're going to want to stay away from one-sided conversations with a woman. If you're having a conversation and it seems like you're taking on most of the dialogue between you to either move along or get her to chime in. That means create a balanced conversation where the woman is engaging and does her part to contribute to the conversation. There are easy questions like "Where are you from", or "How do you know _____ " that can start a simple mingle session. It's important to remember that if she's not investing in the conversation and only answering with short replies - you should not invest too much of yourself either.
Confidence And Your Approach
A lot of guys see a woman's phone number as the goal. It's true that the phone number should be a priority but it's only part of the overall picture. When asking for a woman's phone number you should be confident and to the point. Don't be afraid or dance around the question. Don't hint at exchanging numbers either - be strong and confident with your approach. By remembering that the number isn't the goal it take some of the pressure off and by working the exchange into conversation there will be little or no stress when thinking how to ask a girl her number. When talking about a topic that you BOTH enjoy casually mention she should take out her phone. Have her dial your number and call it. No pickup lines no funny jokes.
"Hey do you have your phone on you? Take it out."
"Cool, dial my number we should definitely talk more about going ______ next time we're both free"
Leading Women In A Relationship
From dancing to adventure, women expect men to lead. One of the biggest mistakes men make is constantly asking the woman what she wants to do. If this is you - STOP. You will likely find yourself single again very soon. Make the decisions for the two of you and stick with it. Be decisive, don't hesitate, and enjoy yourself. This is true both in normal courting as well as the bedroom.
Approval Seeking Men Are Lame
Attractive men are secure in themselves and have no reason to seek approval from women. Trying to impress a women with bling bling or expensive luxuries are all forms of approval seeking. Don't do these things as they shine you in a negative and insecure light. Both qualities are fundamentally unattractive.
Learn to Qualify Women
Women have become preconditioned to scoff a man who shows too much interest in her looks above anything else. Men will rely upon lame pick-up lines and over-used routines that she has undoubtedly heard before. Rather than fitting in with the rest of the unsuccessful men, communicate to her that it is you who is picking her and not the other way around. Qualifying women in this sense shows you have criteria for your ideal women and will actually make you appear more attractive in her eyes. It's important to remember that you have to stay true to that criteria regardless of how good she looks.
One-Sided Conversations Are Bad
You're going to want to stay away from one-sided conversations with a woman. If you're having a conversation and it seems like you're taking on most of the dialogue between you to either move along or get her to chime in. That means create a balanced conversation where the woman is engaging and does her part to contribute to the conversation. There are easy questions like "Where are you from", or "How do you know _____ " that can start a simple mingle session. It's important to remember that if she's not investing in the conversation and only answering with short replies - you should not invest too much of yourself either.
Confidence And Your Approach
A lot of guys see a woman's phone number as the goal. It's true that the phone number should be a priority but it's only part of the overall picture. When asking for a woman's phone number you should be confident and to the point. Don't be afraid or dance around the question. Don't hint at exchanging numbers either - be strong and confident with your approach. By remembering that the number isn't the goal it take some of the pressure off and by working the exchange into conversation there will be little or no stress when thinking how to ask a girl her number. When talking about a topic that you BOTH enjoy casually mention she should take out her phone. Have her dial your number and call it. No pickup lines no funny jokes.
"Hey do you have your phone on you? Take it out."
"Cool, dial my number we should definitely talk more about going ______ next time we're both free"
Leading Women In A Relationship
From dancing to adventure, women expect men to lead. One of the biggest mistakes men make is constantly asking the woman what she wants to do. If this is you - STOP. You will likely find yourself single again very soon. Make the decisions for the two of you and stick with it. Be decisive, don't hesitate, and enjoy yourself. This is true both in normal courting as well as the bedroom.
Approval Seeking Men Are Lame
Attractive men are secure in themselves and have no reason to seek approval from women. Trying to impress a women with bling bling or expensive luxuries are all forms of approval seeking. Don't do these things as they shine you in a negative and insecure light. Both qualities are fundamentally unattractive.
How to Tell If a Girl Likes You
Men come into terrible dilemma when they meet a girl that they like. The love is in the heart, but the feat is there too for he does not know whether the girl likes him too. Nobody dares to make a move until he finds signs of interest, so as not to avoid premature rejection or being ridiculed by the girl.
There are different signs a girl can send to show that she likes you. One of them is through the eyes. If she can't stop herself from looking at you, there are great chances that she is interested, and would expect you to make a move. This is a great sign, so if you experience the same, go for it!
The second sign happens to both men and women. Look for the willingness to help. If a girl is attracted to you, she will find ways to help you. This is because she sees you as Number One priority. In more "extreme" cases, she may call you to ask if you need help. This is the ultimate indication, and it means she wants your company badly.
Jealousy is another good way to tell. Perhaps, on purpose, go talk another girl you know when the girl you are interested is around. Notice if you can see that she is jealous; they can't hide it! Sometimes, she may ask "Is that your girlfriend?" and that is a sign that they are watching for you. So you know she is jealous, and you want her to show more emotions, what should you do? Perhaps just talk to her casually. And if the jealousy does not go away for a long time, tease her by saying "Are you jealous?"
These few signs will help you determine if the girl you are eyeing likes you as well. If most of these signs are present, there is a good chance that she is. Even if, she is not, going ahead with the confession may bring surprises. Well, life is so random that we never know what would happen.
There are different signs a girl can send to show that she likes you. One of them is through the eyes. If she can't stop herself from looking at you, there are great chances that she is interested, and would expect you to make a move. This is a great sign, so if you experience the same, go for it!
The second sign happens to both men and women. Look for the willingness to help. If a girl is attracted to you, she will find ways to help you. This is because she sees you as Number One priority. In more "extreme" cases, she may call you to ask if you need help. This is the ultimate indication, and it means she wants your company badly.
Jealousy is another good way to tell. Perhaps, on purpose, go talk another girl you know when the girl you are interested is around. Notice if you can see that she is jealous; they can't hide it! Sometimes, she may ask "Is that your girlfriend?" and that is a sign that they are watching for you. So you know she is jealous, and you want her to show more emotions, what should you do? Perhaps just talk to her casually. And if the jealousy does not go away for a long time, tease her by saying "Are you jealous?"
These few signs will help you determine if the girl you are eyeing likes you as well. If most of these signs are present, there is a good chance that she is. Even if, she is not, going ahead with the confession may bring surprises. Well, life is so random that we never know what would happen.
Sunday, May 4, 2008
A Man's Secrets to Successful Online Dating
People have taken to online dating like a duck takes to water…because it works…or, at least, it can work. Women are, in general, terrified of meeting a man that she has been chatting with online. All they have heard about are the scary things that can happen…and, I must say, they have a right to be careful to the extreme. That’s not only wise but vital. So what’s a nice guy to do? You aren’t a pervert, a sexual predator, or a weirdo. You are just a nice guy looking for “the” girl for you.
You must be patient. Don’t press her for personal information like her real name or where she lives. Keep your conversations light and fun until she feels comfortable talking with you online. Don’t try to rush her into meeting face-to-face. She will think you are desperate or a pervert. Patience. Patience. Patience.
Be absolutely honest about your physical appearance and job. A good relationship has never been, and will never be, built on lies and deceit. Eventually she will find out the truth anyway and there you are back at square one.
A picture really is worth a thousand words. Post many pictures of yourself doing your everyday activities and make them full body shots, not just head shots. If you were dating a girl in the real world she wouldn’t just see your head.
Once the discussion has been opened about meeting face-to-face for the first time, suggest that you meet in a very public place, during daylight hours and that she bring a friend with her. After all, you have nothing to hide. You’ve told her the truth about yourself and she has already seen a lot of pictures of you. The only thing left is to make her feel safe meeting you.
You must be patient. Don’t press her for personal information like her real name or where she lives. Keep your conversations light and fun until she feels comfortable talking with you online. Don’t try to rush her into meeting face-to-face. She will think you are desperate or a pervert. Patience. Patience. Patience.
Be absolutely honest about your physical appearance and job. A good relationship has never been, and will never be, built on lies and deceit. Eventually she will find out the truth anyway and there you are back at square one.
A picture really is worth a thousand words. Post many pictures of yourself doing your everyday activities and make them full body shots, not just head shots. If you were dating a girl in the real world she wouldn’t just see your head.
Once the discussion has been opened about meeting face-to-face for the first time, suggest that you meet in a very public place, during daylight hours and that she bring a friend with her. After all, you have nothing to hide. You’ve told her the truth about yourself and she has already seen a lot of pictures of you. The only thing left is to make her feel safe meeting you.
Popular Online Dating Activities For Men
Heads up, gents. Online dating can open up new doors of opportunities with a little help from real world dating tips that work. Spice up your matchmaking with some of these ideas.
Looks Count
Comment on how attractive she is. Yes, women do want to know they are pretty, even if they’re online and you can’t see them and have no idea. So in your communications, ask questions that would help you know, but in an unobtrusive way like – how do you wear your hair? And then say how attractive that must look.
Kindness Counts
Point out nice things or the lemonade in life – nice things the other person has mentioned, nice acts the person has done, good things on the news latterly, etc. Be upbeat, and forget those lemons in life. Even in email a person can shout, by using all capital letters. So show manners and kindness. Keep swearing, unkind remarks, prejudice, etc. out of your communications. And “do unto others….”
So add some helpful real-world tips that do work (a lot of the time anyway) into your online dating equations. And come up on the positive side of romance – and enjoy more lemonade!
Looks Count
Comment on how attractive she is. Yes, women do want to know they are pretty, even if they’re online and you can’t see them and have no idea. So in your communications, ask questions that would help you know, but in an unobtrusive way like – how do you wear your hair? And then say how attractive that must look.
Kindness Counts
Point out nice things or the lemonade in life – nice things the other person has mentioned, nice acts the person has done, good things on the news latterly, etc. Be upbeat, and forget those lemons in life. Even in email a person can shout, by using all capital letters. So show manners and kindness. Keep swearing, unkind remarks, prejudice, etc. out of your communications. And “do unto others….”
So add some helpful real-world tips that do work (a lot of the time anyway) into your online dating equations. And come up on the positive side of romance – and enjoy more lemonade!
Nice Guys Do It, Too!
I’m talking about online dating, of course. When the phenomenon of online dating sites started several years ago, they were a haven for perverts, sexual predators, nerds, and weirdoes of assorted varieties.
That is just no longer the case. All the stigma of online dating is gone. Online dating has gone main stream and is, not only acceptable, but expected. Online dating has become the primary tool of single people of all ages to generate an interesting and rewarding social life.
Let’s face it…we are busy guys. We just simply do not have the time, the energy, or the financial where-with-all to date several nights each week while we look for the “one”. You can sort through hundreds of profiles in a month for less money than you would spend on one evening out, thus, saving time and money. We use the internet to save ourselves time and money for a lot of things like investments, shopping, medical information, and communications.
Why not make use of such a useful tool for our social and personal lives as well? You could find the love of your life. At the very least, you will meet some interesting people and possibly make some lasting friendships. It’s easy to get started. All you need is a computer and an internet connection. You’ll need to search for online dating services that meet your specific needs. They are many and varied.
Join one or two. Then you’ll need to write a great profile, upload a recent picture of yourself and start making and answering contacts. That really is all there is to it…that and patience.
Don’t wait any longer to start your new and interesting social life. Miss or Ms. “Right” could be only a few clicks of the mouse away.
Friday, May 2, 2008
Online Dating Safety For Men
Almost everything you read about online dating safety is directed at women but men need to be concerned as well. Perverts, sexual predators and weirdoes come in both sexes, all sizes, and all ages…as do, liars and cheaters. So men need to stay on guard, too.
It is common knowledge not to readily give out personal information to strangers. The reason for not doing so is as large as the number of strangers who want that information. If you come across a person who is giving out personal information and asking others to do the same, don’t do it. You don’t know what they want to use it for….and you had better believe they want to use it for something. That “something” will not be for your benefit. Men, also, need to guard their real names, addresses, phone numbers, and place of employment. Do not give that information to anyone online until you are confident that they are who they say they are.
Men, be wary of women who seem too financially needy. If they ask for money, in any of a dozen ways women can ask for money, cut the relationship off immediately. They are not looking for love or even friendship….they are looking for financial help.
If a woman gives you a contact number but you cannot ever reach her at that number, beware. If you always have to page them or text them and have them call you back, this could be a sign that what they are telling you is not the complete truth.
A need to get married and insecurity are other signs men should be very wary of. If the woman is pushing too hard for a commitment you aren’t ready to make, it might be a good time to head for the nearest exit.
The Things That Ladies Like To Hear
There are some things that you can say to a women that is going to give you an edge when it comes to hooking up with them. That is because all women have things that they love to hear. Women are kind of like dogs (Ladies, please don’t take offense…Just an analogy). If you say the right thing at just the right time (and in the right tone of voice), you can make her do whatever it is you want her to do. At the same time, if you say the wrong thing at the wrong time (and, of course, in the wrong tone of voice), they will make your life a living hell. This is a concept that a lot of men have problems with. They do not get that the same line or same phrase is not going to work every time. There is a certain time to say the things that you think women want to hear.
First of all, when you meet a girl, no pickup lines. No matter how funny you think it is, or how clever you think you are being because you are not! So when we’re talking about certain phrases that girls want to hear, keep in mind we are not talking about pickup lines. Let’s start of with some things you should already know. Women love to get compliments. This is the only thing that you can use day in and day out, and you could never use it too much. Women love compliments; end of story. In fact, you could say that women need compliments like living things need food and water. Yes, it's that big of a deal. The biggest thing that you have to remember is not to over do it. Sure you can give compliments everyday, but you can not just throw out empty flattery. There has to be real strategy behind the compliments you give.
Now that you know that compliments are a good idea and you can say them everyday, when is the right time to say it, and how should you say it? Well, the way that you should say it all depends on her mood. If it's for someone that you have been dating for a long time, then saying something like, “your butt looks good in those jeans,” could be fine. However, if it's a random girl at the store, you may want to think of a different way to say it. Something like, “those jeans look very flattering on you.” This is pretty much just another way to say, “hey your butt looks good in those jeans (sad but true).” Another sure fire hit is, “you look incredible.” Sure it's simple, but it's very effective!
Here are some simple tips that are often overlooked. Don’t just think about it, go out there and start using it!
First of all, when you meet a girl, no pickup lines. No matter how funny you think it is, or how clever you think you are being because you are not! So when we’re talking about certain phrases that girls want to hear, keep in mind we are not talking about pickup lines. Let’s start of with some things you should already know. Women love to get compliments. This is the only thing that you can use day in and day out, and you could never use it too much. Women love compliments; end of story. In fact, you could say that women need compliments like living things need food and water. Yes, it's that big of a deal. The biggest thing that you have to remember is not to over do it. Sure you can give compliments everyday, but you can not just throw out empty flattery. There has to be real strategy behind the compliments you give.
Now that you know that compliments are a good idea and you can say them everyday, when is the right time to say it, and how should you say it? Well, the way that you should say it all depends on her mood. If it's for someone that you have been dating for a long time, then saying something like, “your butt looks good in those jeans,” could be fine. However, if it's a random girl at the store, you may want to think of a different way to say it. Something like, “those jeans look very flattering on you.” This is pretty much just another way to say, “hey your butt looks good in those jeans (sad but true).” Another sure fire hit is, “you look incredible.” Sure it's simple, but it's very effective!
Here are some simple tips that are often overlooked. Don’t just think about it, go out there and start using it!
Monday, April 28, 2008
First Post
We can't get enough tips for dating! Right? Well, I am going to definitely try to post as many guides/tips I can from either my experience or just from something I read. Stay tuned fellas...
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